The Perfection of Being Imperfect

“Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best.
Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame.
It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from flight.”

Dr Brene Brown

None of us are perfect. The drive for perfection, whether it be with academics or appearance or athletics, can be a damaging pursuit.

The goal for socially and emotionally healthy students is self acceptance. It doesn’t mean not trying or doing one’s best; it is about doing your best, but understanding there will be mistakes along the way, and that perfection is often not attainable.

Some resources on the pressures and problems with perfectionism:

Too Perfect

In Too Perfect, acclaimed speaker and child advocate Trudy Ludwig explores the relentless and destructive drive for perfection, and the freedom that comes from accepting one’s self.

The Good Egg

Dynamic duo Jory John and Pete Oswald hatch a funny and charming tale of a VERY good egg who learns that it’s not always necessary to be perfect, and sometimes okay not to always be the good egg all the time. Great message about the importance of balance, self care, acceptance of others, and that we don’t have to please everyone all the time.