“Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best.
Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame.
It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from flight.”
None of us are perfect. The drive for perfection, whether it be with academics or appearance or athletics, can be a damaging pursuit.
The goal for socially and emotionally healthy students is self acceptance. It doesn’t mean not trying or doing one’s best; it is about doing your best, but understanding there will be mistakes along the way, and that perfection is often not attainable.
Some resources on the pressures and problems with perfectionism:
Too Perfect
In Too Perfect, acclaimed speaker and child advocate Trudy Ludwig explores the relentless and destructive drive for perfection, and the freedom that comes from accepting one’s self.
